Everyone Sees What You Appear to Be

Everyone sees what y'all appear to exist, few experience what you really are.

Everyone sees what y'all appear to be, few feel what yous actually are. – Niccolò Machiavelli

What masks do you wear? Is there something wrong with the real you lot, that you would hide it from everyone?

What does that mean?
While the translation I used wasn't exactly the same, information technology's close enough for what we are doing. This quote was from The Prince, where the author is giving advice for how a Prince should craft his public image.

In that chapter, the Prince is given advice, and told to be consistent in public, every bit many will come across them, and believe the carefully crafted image that the Prince has constructed.

Since very few of those people volition ever come across the Prince, how the Prince behaves in private is of picayune upshot. If their individual behavior is discovered, the affiliate continues, few will believe it.

In short, Machiavelli is giving advice on how to lie and deceive, and how to get away with it.

Why is honesty important?
While the quote is all about how a person of great power tin prevarication and deceive a population in a most deliberate and cynical mode, it besides applies to the residual of us 'normal' people.

How many people have you known who changed how they wait, what they did, their habits or patterns, just to get close to someone? Isn't that kind of the same thing, to pretend to be someone you are not?

Most of the people I knew in my tardily teens and on into my twenties were busy trying to be the person that their latest honey interest would detect interesting.

For those of you who have been there, how well did that work out? Whether it's done for a appointment, a task, or any other reason, lying about yourself in order to gain advantage rarely ends well.

Where tin I use this in my life?
The U.s.a. news has been full of stories of people who lied on their resume, lied to get admission or scholarships to college, and many other deliberate falsifications for personal gain. For them, it really backfired. What proceeds they had has been wiped away, and now they take been branded as liars.

They are now known to many, and are known to be untrustworthy. How bad would the rest of your life be if you had that hung around your neck, or taped on your back, like the more traditional "boot me" sign?

The quote is stated as a warning to the Prince to advisedly guard the carefully crafted deceits and lies. Withal, for the rest of u.s.a., information technology is an equally valid warning tonot do this, as it will backfire, trapping you in a lie for equally long every bit yous can go on up appearances.

Take a moment and consider if there are areas in your life where you lot pretend to exist someone yous are non? Maybe information technology is my historic period, or my lack of social skills, but I never establish such games to be of whatsoever interest or utilise. I am what I am, and people can like it or not. The selection is theirs.

For those of you who take one (or more), take a moment and think about the situation. How much satisfaction do you get from your deception? How much endeavor does it take to go into character and prepare yourself for changing into the 'other' you?

What do you lot get for all your effort? If it is being done to catch someone, how long do you lot think it volition accept them to run across through your disguise? What then? Will they desire to get to know you lot better when you have already proven to them that you are untrustworthy, and a known deceiver and liar? Do you feel foolish, and do they?

If information technology is beingness washed to get a job, or a place in a social organization, what will happen when you are found out? What will happen to you and your reputation when everyone knows y'all cannot be trusted? What will you exercise for a chore afterwards that? What employer would hire you? What grouping would have you as a member?

While this quote is all about how to exist a pretender, I would twist his words and apply them to urge you to practise the opposite. Be yourself. It'due south easier to tell the truth than a lie, because you don't have to remember what y'all told to whom, right?

If y'all have to pull a fast one on people in order to get them to like yous, what does that say well-nigh you, and what does that say about them? Perhaps you need improve friends, true friends. People who similar you considering of who you really are, non people who like what you appear to exist.

From: Twitter, @franzooooo
confirmed at : http://world wide web.constitution.org/mac/prince18.htm 3rd paragraph from lesser, last sentence.
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Source: https://philosiblog.com/2012/05/19/everyone-sees-what-you-appear-to-be-few-experience-what-you-really-are/

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